Virginity Is A Social Construct

The Belle Jar

Jezebel published a piece today with the title “Nearly 1% Of Women Claim They Were Virgins When They Gave Birth,” and, because this is Jezebel we’re talking about here, they used this as an opportunity to shame and belittle the women who say that they became pregnant while still virgins. And just so we all understand what author Erin Gloria Ryan means by virgins, she writes that they are women who,

“… were unpenetrated by the peen of a man when they became pregnant.”

She further explains,

“This doesn’t include women who became pregnant via in vitro fertilization or artificial insemination; these are women who gave birth the old fashioned way and were like *shrug! SERIOUSLY GUYS I DON’T EVEN KNOW HOW THIS HAPPENED!”

Then (incorrectly) asserts,

“Getting pregnant without sex is virtually scientifically impossible, yet dozens of women in the study (who were teens when the…

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“Hard” Questions about Abortion

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I ran across an anti-abortion post that said prochoice politicians are never asked “hard” questions akin to those directed at anti-abortion politicians.  They listed 10 questions, none of which I found that hard.  So I thought I’d answer them:

1. You say you support a woman’s right to make her own reproductive choices in regards to abortion and contraception. Are there any restrictions you would approve of?

I think a woman’s health and life should be paramount and that she should be able to make decisions regarding her own health and body regardless of pregnancy.  That said, if a woman seeks a therapeutic abortion for a viable fetus, I would support the removal of the fetus from her body in a way that would produce the highest likelihood of a good outcome for both.

2. In 2010, The Economist featured a cover story on “the war on girls” and the…

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Equality is not Conformity

Equality is not the same as conformity.

Women’s rights are not supposed to make all women into men. Women are able to have children, and that difference should be celebrated, not demonized or punished.

Religious freedom is not supposed to make everyone Christian. Other religions are different and beautiful in their own ways. They should be respected. Religious freedom is not supposed to turn everyone into atheists. It is supposed to allow people to choose and live by their own form of spirituality.

Racial equality is not supposed to make everyone white. Other races, other cultures, other traditions are beautiful, and people should have the right to live by their own. They shouldn’t be punished or discriminated against for being who they are. They shouldn’t be shamed for following their own traditions.

Equality is a good thing, but it leads to conformity. People are afraid of letting other people have individualities. America is called a melting pot, as if to melt everyone together into a homogeneous soup. That is not equality.

Equality is not forcing people to conform to the usual. Equality is not forcing women to give up femininity to succeed. Equality is not forcing people to convert to Christianity so everyone can believe the same things. Equality is not forcing minorities to assimilate to white culture.

Equality is not conformity.

Equality is respect.